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One Major Change You Can Make To Improve Your Confidence

Posted on : 30-10-2011 | By : Belinda | In : Overcome Shyness

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Learning to accept things as they are and change what you can is going to give you the power you need to make changes to your personal life and be a happier person...Continue Reading...

Overcome Your Fear Of Public Speaking-7 Tips That Work

Posted on : 19-05-2011 | By : Belinda | In : Overcome Shyness

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Some very prominent speakers have made mistakes and a lot of good speakers do.  The difference is what they do with the mistake.  Often they turn it into an opportunity and embrace it; they don’t lose sleep over it.  You can learn some basic skills that will have you sounding very confident and smart when you are called upon to speak or just have something to say.   Read More...

Changing Bad Habits to Improve your Personal Life

Posted on : 17-05-2011 | By : Belinda | In : Overcome Shyness

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Once something becomes a habit it can be very difficult to change. It is said that it takes about a month of doing something to make it a habit. A person may develop many different habits throughout their lifetime and Read More...

If You Suffer From Debilitating Fear Try These Tips To Overcome It

Posted on : 16-05-2011 | By : Belinda | In : Overcome Shyness

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The ability to overcome your fears seems a simple matter to those that don’t suffer from forms of debilitating fear. To the person actually having the fears, it is quite another matter.  A debilitating fear is a fear so intense that  Read More...

Focus On Your Mental And Emotional Side To Speed Self Improvement

Posted on : 31-01-2011 | By : Belinda | In : Overcome Shyness

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Not everyone believes this but the emotional and mental aspects of a person, when combined, leads to better self improvement.

Emotions love to dominate our actions and reactions, even though we do not want it to happen sometimes. The society often see emotions as a sign of weakness, so people are used to putting them aside and focusing on the rational aspects more and more.

No matter how strict and logical you may be, you will always feel. One way or another, someone or something will get through you.

Positive emotions are a lifelong goal for many of us concerned about emotional health and self improvement. What is more important; the amount of money you made during your life or the times you laughed out of sheer joy?

People tend to put their positive emotions behind their negative feelings. This is one of the biggest problems that people come across during their lives.

There is no clear way to ignore a negative experience and try to replace it with a positive one. Life just does not work that way.

For example, when you were a child, if your goldfish dies, you would be heartbroken. Your parents will probably buy you another goldfish but the sorrow is still there.

Things get even more complex when you become an adult. A fight with your spouse the night before will affect your entire day. You will go to work angry, tired, and your mind will wander. On the way home from work you will not notice the sun shining and you would not be tempted to stop at a roadside stand to pick up some fresh fruits and vegetables.

All this because that one negative thought has contaminated the way you perceive the reality around you.

In this moment you will realize finding a safe place to relax your mind will do wonders for your emotional and mental improvement.

That place is relatively easy to find. It can be an actual place or an imaginary location. The best idea is to totally lose yourself in it.

Let us say you have a problem on your mind and it just would not go away. Go bowling. Do not know how? Just give it a shot.

Get caught up in the game. Your mind will drift away from the negative thoughts that dominated your last hours or days and start processing a whole new kind of information.

A safe haven can take many forms. It can be a song, a movie, even a person or animal. The main thing is allow yourself to get completely involved with this new activity.

You might still get flashes of the problem every now and then. Ignore it and get even more absorbed in what you are doing.

When the bowling game, the song, or the movie ends you will abruptly return to reality. You will probably want to retreat back to the safe place. Do not do it.

The safe place exists only as a helping hand, not as a solution to your life's problems, may it be a small or big. It serves only as an escape route.

You will return from your safe zone with an increased energy level. You will feel better about yourself and gain more confidence. You will see that any issue can be resolved.

This is how a small escape from a harsh reality can increase your emotional and mental health. Try to do this often and you are on your way to better self improvement.

7 Tips You Can Easily Master For Confident Body Language

Posted on : 31-01-2011 | By : Belinda | In : Overcome Shyness

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Men are usually the aggressor and feel obligated to make the first move in a relationship.  Many men are held back by their own self confidence to even look in a womans direction for more than a glance.  A mans body language will signal an interest even when he is unaware of it.

It is a natural instinct of the male to attract a mate and reproduce.  There is fierce competition for this position so the male must be prepared to fight to the death.  On the other hand, women know they are hunted so they protect themselves and are often much more confident and selective.  So when a man is flirting he has the experience that gives him a confidence that is unique to him and his desires.

There are many confident male body language signals that you can learn to easily master.  Practice these steps and you will find they actually come quite naturally when you relax.

  1. Be calm and composed, even if you really aren’t, don’t over react to her signals, be calm and smile this will let her know that you are confident and she will naturally follow your lead
  2. Move slowly and with confidence, pay attention to how you sit, stand and move in general, showing that you are confident and composed will help her relax.  If you act nervous she will pick up on that too.
  3. Don’t let yourself be hidden by those around you, claim your personal space with your body but, don’t be sloppy about it
  4. Smile and be friendly
  5. When you speak always speak clearly but, changing how loud you are will  force her to listen carefully when you are speaking softly and relaxing when you speak louder
  6. Don’t laugh when you shouldn’t or too much
  7. Smile when you make eye contact but don’t stare 

Many of our fears are unfounded and we often hold ourselves back because of them.  Have you ever seen a man laughed at or embarrassed for talking to a woman?   We only seem to notice the guys that are successful not the ones that aren’t.  The goal is to seem confident and relaxed, even if you aren’t and the more you work to display confident male body language the more natural it will become.  Remember that women are nervous too and your goal right now is to create interest and conversation.

Lasting Loving Relationships-Can You Really Have One Or Should You Settle For Less

Posted on : 31-01-2011 | By : Belinda | In : Talk To Someone Online

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Okay Boys!  You can get all the paid for or free flirting advice you can stomach, but ya better be careful about what you go after.  We all know that men and women are different but if you ask a woman she will tell you she has men figured out.  There are very few men that will say the same about women.  Flirting and dating is all well and good but every time you start a conversation with a woman you are starting a relationship.  It will be up to you where the relationship goes from there. 

There have been scientific studies done about why a person does what they do, and they have found answers about how relationships work too.  What attracts a certain type of man or woman for one person can be totally different from one person to the next. 

What makes a person stay in an unfulfilling relationship or an abusive one? 

Unfortunately, children have no say in these matters between partners and no control over how they must suffer through their parent’s choices.  If you find yourself in a relationship with a single parent please, act responsibly.  It does not matter how dysfunctional the parent is, they can do no wrong in the eyes of their children.  If you find yourself involved with a single parent and you know the relationship will not be long term be careful of the bond you create with the children.. 

As an adult you do have choices and you might need to take a step back and a hard look at what is happening in your life.  It is possible to decide whether a date is worth more than one night during the first conversation, you just need to ask the right questions and let her do a little talking. 

According to the results of various studies there are a few different types of women, fortunately for you, they are easy to separate quickly.  Believe me there are some women you do not want to get involved with at any cost no matter how beautiful they are.

Men and women get into a relationship and settle for less than they need.  They are in a rush to be married and think they can work through things, live without others or hope to be able to change their partner.  These types of relationships usually end in heartache for someone involved.    

If you are truly looking for a long lasting loving relationship, you need to recognize it when it slaps you in the face.  Know what you want and do not be intimidated by an overpowering whining woman!  Do not tell her what she wants to hear just to keep her from crying or throwing a tantrum, be honest and say what you feel.

Prioritize the things you must get from your relationship and the things that you can’t tolerate.  You may think you can be happy living with some things you can’t tolerate or doing without the things you need but you will quickly discover that is not true.

Online Dating-Meeting In Person For The First Time

Posted on : 31-01-2011 | By : Belinda | In : Online Dating

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Online dating is different than conventional dating mostly because you will learn a lot about a person before you even start talking to them.  When you do start communicating it may be limited.  Most if not all online dating sites give you limited access unless you are a paying member.  That is how they make their money.  When you do start communicating as a free member you will be given a few prewritten messages that you can send, but you will get a lot of information from a person’s profile.  There are no assurances that any of their profile information is true.

Perhaps you will want to jump right in and meet in person instead of talking first.  There are some guidelines to make the most of your time and keep your self respect at the same time.  If things do not work out you are still building social contacts.  Remember these are people that belong to the same club you do and they could come back leaving negative comments about the date.  You want to guard your reputation and this is done best by clearly stating your intentions.

  1. You should not be too anxious to meet; this could make you seem desperate.  Let the first date happen after a few interactions.

 

  1. Plan your first meeting to be a short one, if things are not working out you will be able to leave without feeling guilty.  At the same time you can make the date last longer if things are working out well.

 

  1. It is always a bad idea to invite someone you do not know into your home.  You should meet in a public place and arrange your own transportation for the first date.

 

  1. An afternoon meeting is always a good choice; you could meet for lunch or a fun activity.  Usually this type of date can save you money as well, lunch is usually always less expensive than dinner and matinees are cheaper as well.  Afternoon dates give you many more options for activities as well like museums, sightseeing and hiking.

 

  1. Make sure that you are on time and dress appropriately.     

 

Sharing a meal on your first date may not be a good idea.  Many people tend to be a little nervous when they are eating in front of strangers.  And after we eat we tend to get a little lazy or need a nap.  Most of us have been taught that it is not polite to talk with food in our mouths, so a big meal wouldn’t allow much conversation either. On the other hand a person’s table manners tell us a lot about them.  Perhaps an afternoon cocktail and some appetizers will be what you need to get the conversations flowing and put both of you at ease.

Afternoon dates tend to be less romantic so you will not be pressured to invite each other in for nightcaps.  You should be more focused on the conversations and getting to know each other and having a good time.

Online Dating Websites-The First Step In A New Relationship

Posted on : 31-01-2011 | By : Belinda | In : Online Dating

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There are hundreds of online dating websites to choose from and probably millions of people online looking for love.  Online dating sites serve a purpose and have been successful at introducing many people from around the world to potential partners.  It is worth your time to build a profile and become a member at one of these communities if you are searching for a partner. 

Women tend to get a lot more invitations than men do so if a woman is not getting back to you right away, do not be alarmed she may be busy.  It is also important to keep in mind that many of these profiles may be abandoned.   A person might have set up the profile and met someone then never came back to update or delete their personal profile.   So don’t wait around too long for a response.  If someone is not getting back to you, move on.

 A persons profile will give you some basic information and hopefully they have been honest.  If you find a person you are interested in, prepare to make contact. 

  1. When you find a profile you are interested in, take time to read it over and ask questions about one of the interests they have posted.  Show a genuine interest in getting to know the person.
  2. Do not focus on one person, take an active role in you dating efforts and seek out others that share the same interests.
  3. Make your own profile unique with an interesting user name or picture, don’t be obscene unless you are on one of those sites, and do not use the name of a body part for your user name.
  4. Be honest when filling out your own profile, share some interests and maybe an interesting short story about one of your pictures.
  5. Do not be pushy or seem desperate, this is a real turn off for most women.
  6. Be specific about what you are looking for in a partner, if religion is important say so, if you don’t smoke or drink and can’t tolerate someone that does, say so
  7. Don’t be overconfident and talk about yourself too much, ask interesting questions and get to know who you are talking to.

There is no guarantee that you will find the relationship you are looking for by joining an online dating website, but you will definitely increase your chances.  If you decide to meet one of your prospects in person both of you should be more comfortable meeting in a public place and providing your own transportation.

Online Dating Tips-7 Tips You Need To Know

Posted on : 31-01-2011 | By : Belinda | In : Online Dating

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Online dating has become the place to go for finding mates and dates.  Gone are the days that we are limited to our local communities.  We don’t need for our friends to introduce us or look for dates at the grocery store.  Thanks to the power of the internet and a whole lot of online dating websites, we can meet and date people from all over the world.  With photos and personal profile information we can learn a lot about a person.  Not everyone or every piece of information is guaranteed to be true and you will need to personally verify it with caution.

  1. Look for someone that shares your interests, religion and personal preferences.  Having things in common will give you lots of things to talk about.
  2. Look and listen for signs of undesirable behavior ask questions and pay attention to the answers.  If a person is vague or avoids talking about themselves it is a good indicator they have something to hide.
  3. If you are looking for a serious relationship you will want to avoid anyone that talks about themselves constantly and does not seem interested in who you are.  These people are usually looking for attention and will lose interest in you quickly. 
  4. Don’t be in too much of a hurry; it could make you seem desperate.  Relationships take time to build.  One of the benefits of online dating is that you get to know someone before you meet them.
  5. If you find that a person has been dishonest in their profile, you would be correct in assuming that this person has a general problem with honesty and you can expect to deal with more lies.  When filling out your own online dating profile remember that it will be hard to cover up or change lies.
  6. If you decide to meet someone in person always keep safety in mind.  The meeting place should be a public one and you should meet there.  A daytime meeting is usually best for a first date or meeting because they tend to be more casual focusing on having a good time and conversations. Evening dates tend to be more formal and romantic.
  7. Even if you are nervous, try to be yourself and have a good time.  Think of your date like a friend or family member.  Be yourself; don’t try to be something you are not.

Online dating has definitely changed the way people find new partners.  Although these sites have a lot of built in security, you should always use caution when giving out personal information or meeting someone new.  It is true that people have met what seems to be the perfect partner online but, it is also true that just as many and perhaps more have had a bad experience.